Well let’s see! Catching up the last few months as I enjoy a cup of latte’.
After I picked my grandson up I didn’t have much time to get online to do much of anything. Every moment of the day was dedicated to him. He is such a good boy and stuck by the rules of the house without whining or complaining. Although, every time it was bedtime or naptime he would cry a bit for his Mommy and sister. I had a wonderful time with him. Shortly after the new year I went to Michigan and picked up my daughter and granddaughter. I rented a small house across the street from me beforehand so that my daughter and the kids would have a home to come to. My grandson did not want to live there unless his Mommy was going to be there. His Daddy drove the U-Haul back while my daughter and I drove the car with my granddaughter in it. We had left my grandson in Columbus with his other Grandma who he calls Nana. We pulled into Columbus in the late evening and I had his Daddy go pick him up because I thought he would get a kick out of riding in a big truck with his Daddy. My daughter and I went to the little house I rented and unloaded the car and waited for the kids Daddy and my grandson. When my grandson got off that big truck I expected him to be so excited for getting to ride in a truck, but he marched toward that little house and pointed and said, “Is my Mommy in that house?” I started laughing and said who told you that? (He remembers everything you say, and I had said he would not have to live there without his Mommy) Anyway, there was a tearful reunion between Mother and child, and since then, he doesn’t want to leave his Mommy’s side for long. Taking a child from the person they love most in the world is a horrible thing to experience. To see a small child’s heart break because he wants to be with his Mommy, just about killed me inside.
My grandson just had his 4th Birthday, which happily he got to be with his Mommy and sister who he calls yaya (nickname). Him and his Mommy baked a cake together and we all were together while he opened a few presents. They all are still getting settled into their new home. It’s small, but at least they are together and have a roof over their heads. Their Daddy has found a job and my daughter is working with me. It’s still a struggle to keep food on the table but we are managing and as long as the kids are fed, I’m ok with that. I love my daughter to pieces but if I have to choose who gets to eat, it will always be the kids first lol
When I talk to my grandson and ask if he is happy now in their new home, he says “Yes. It’s our home!” It’s quite amazing over the last couple months I’ve really learned a lot from my 3 yr. old grandson (now 4). It doesn’t matter what age we are, there is always something about life to learn, and sometimes it’s a surprise who the teacher ends up being. The kids still listen to me better than their Mommy, but I explained to my daughter that all kids are brats for their mom lol At least they are well behaved when away from their Mommy which means she is doing well teaching them even if she doesn’t realize it.
I’m very happy to have them so close. My daughter and grandchildren are just across the street and I can see them whenever I want or disappear if I choose lol Now if only my son would move back to Columbus. I miss him terribly too, but I also know he has his own life to live and doesn’t need my help as much as my daughter does with the kids.
I definitely have to make boundaries for myself so that I do not drag myself down financially. Also, it’s not good to hand everything to people that need to learn to get on their feet and support themselves. I do have to pick and choose what I help them with because I really want them to be self-sufficient and not to depend on me all the time. I’ve given them the chance to start a new life, now it is up to them to do it.
I wish I had gotten all the funny, special moments on video, but it’s like every time I get my phone and camera ready, the moment is gone. One of these days I’ll get it right lol
As far as my life the last few months, I pretty much gave it up to make sure my grandson felt safe and secure, although I did enjoy each moment with him. We had our own little routine everyday which worked out well. I’m big on routine and stability for little kids. The one morning I woke him up because I had to take him to work with me and he looked out the window and said, “Maaa(short for Grandma)…it’s still dark out!” He loved going to work with me and won the heart of the gentleman I work for. My grandson actually likes going to work. I will give him chores to do while we are there and he does them cheerfully. He is a good helper.
I went to visit them yesterday and my daughter was fixing my granddaughters hair, so my grandson started combing mine (which I recently got all chopped off, it is no longer all the way down my back). I let him comb it and he said he was making me pretty lol. Then a bit later I felt this fuzzy thing by my ear and turned and my grandson said MAAAA, I need to clean your ears! I said no you don’t, Grandma just cleaned them lol. He had a Q-tip and was ready to clean my ears out. Probably trying to get me back for when I cleaned his ears out when he was staying at my house lol
All in all, life is simple and good right now and I have so much to be grateful for. I’ve missed writing here and my life was on hold for a bit, but I do plan on working on my novel and hopefully finishing it by the end of this year. That is my goal for this year, although I did not expect my life to be put on hold, so if it takes a bit longer so be it. I’m not going to stress over it. Family comes first and it always will. I’m fortunate to have good hearted children and grandchildren. I could not expect more.
It’s the greatest feeling to knock on the door and when I walk in, both the kids come running to hug and kiss me, yelling MAAA! MAAA! And then when I leave I get more hugs and kisses and they say bye bye or ni night, and I love you MAAA.
We may be poor, and each day is a struggle, but in reality I’m rich because I have the love of my children and my precious grandchildren. I truly am blessed.